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Monday, February 12, 2007

If you haven't gone through it...

It's really hard when you first mention to someone that your child is autistic (stranger, friend, or family) how to explain to them what its like.

Most people, mostly at work, go "Oh! I'm SOOOO sorry!" That bothers me a little, although, it's what I would have said a year ago. I've responded, "It's not that bad, he's on the high-functioning end of the spectrum." But, it is hard to deal with everything and even harder to give others an idea about what we go through.

I wanted to share a poem that I found on AutismSpeaks.org, which itself is a WONDERFUL site to start your information gathering. I found this over a week ago and still cannot read it without tearing up.

Perspective - A Poem for Jaren
by Barbara Spires

When you walked on your tippy toes
at the age of 11 months
We called you Skillful

When you playfully flapped your arms
at the age of one
We called you Adorable

When you methodically piled up the laundered clothes
at the age of 15 months
We called you Eccentric

When you memorized every alphabet, number and color
at the age of 18 months
We called you a Genius

When you climbed the tallest furniture piece
at the age of two
We called you Fearless

When we told them all that you can do
at the age of two
They called you Autistic

And as you keep challenging yourself
to reach out to us
at the age of three
We choose to call you...Awesome

If you really want to get a feeling for the ups and downs that parents of autistic children go through on a daily basis, please view Autism Every Day. The first time I viewed this 13-minute video, I cried because I finally didn't feel like I was the only one going through this. There's a longer version that was played at the Sundance Film Festival and I'm very excited to see it.

Explain the Name

Well:

  • Chase is my son
  • Mr. Bear is his #1 best friend
  • The Sucky Thing (pacifier) is his #2 best friend
I'm not sure where I came up with "Sucky Thing". Someone just said it one day and it stuck. My best friend tried to use it for her daughter, but her husband made her stop. Probably a good idea. We get funny looks when we have a screaming kid in a store/mall/etc. and here we are saying "Hey! Where's his sucky thing?" But, I guess I look at people weird when they call it a "binky".

I think that if Chase gets to the point of recovery that he can handle a trip in the car, a nap, and going to bed without Mr. Bear and the sucky, we'd be in a really great place.

Here's a picture of a day in the life of poor Mr. Bear.

Well, here we go...

So... I set this blog up a while back with the intent to track my son's progress. My son Chase was diagnosed with PDD-NOS, Pervasive Development Disorder- Not Otherwise Specified. To anybody that hasn't been initiated in the ASD world, it's what some call "Autism Light", "Atypical Autism", or "just a nice way to say your son's autistic without using the "A" word."

What I need to do is track Chase's progressions/regressions/ups/downs/etc. to share with our very own A-team. I just made that up. Autism Team, A-team. Yep, I'm a dork.

Here's the story:

Chase is 2 and half years old. He was developing normally until he was about a year old. Actually, he's always been and still is quite advanced with his motor skills. He was crawling at 5.5 months and walking well at 9.5 months. Of course, we didn't really notice that anything was different about him until about last spring (2006). We just thought that he was difficult and had early-onset terrible twos. Starting at about 10 months, he was saying some words, Kitty, nigh-nigh (when he wanted to sleep), Stacy (his aunt), some other words, too. He lost Momma and Dadda very early. After he was one, he stopped saying words and just spoke in what we called "Chinese" and the professionals now call "jargon". We were amazed at the long attention span he had to be able to watch his Thomas videos and how he had so much fun at daycare, he seemed to not even care when I left him. (It's amazing and painful to me now that's really what I saw and didn't realize that wasn't something that was good.)

Our first clue that something might be wrong was a Super Nanny show we saw last May (repeat from Nov 2005). My husband and I tuned in a little late and missed the beginning. When we saw the way the 3 year old was acting, we're like, "Oh my gosh! He's acting like Chase!" So, as I often do, I called my mom and asked if she was watching. She was quiet and then said, "Did you see the beginning? The little boy is autistic." I was shocked. No way could Chase be autistic. My thoughts were confirmed by our pediatrician. As Chase was hugging and playing with her, she said, "I can't imagine that there's any possibility that he's autistic, but he does need some help with speech. Call Early On and they'll get you some help." She also sent us to a neurologist to test for absence seizures (which he thankfully is not having.)

Being the end of the school year, we didn't end up with an evaluation until September, but by then, we were starting to see so many of the things about Chase's behavior in a new way. So, we've seen a neurologist, Early On speech therapist, Occupational therapist, hospital rehab speech therapist, and U of M multidisciplinary evaluation clinicians. We're involved in the Early On SLIM group (which is great!), home visits once or twice a week, and we're starting this week with two visits to Sparrow Rehab speech therapy a week. I'm burning through FMLA like crazy. Luckily, my mother watches Chase and his little sister at our home while I'm working. We tried daycare a couple days a week, but it was just too much for Chase.

I also started Chase on a GFCF (Gluten/Casein Free) diet at the beginning of January. I feel like it's helping him, but it's also one thing that I can greatly control, so maybe it's actually more for me. But, he's adjusted well and is actually eating better now. I also just found a doctor in Grass Lake that does the DAN protocol and had an appointment with him a couple weeks ago. His current pediatrician just doesn't have enough experience with autistic children. Our new DAN doctor suggested leaving Chase with everything that we're doing now and adding Methyl B12 shots. I think that I've noticed some behaviors possibly resulting from the shots, so that's why I'm finally here. I HAVE to track his treatments and have some sane way to share with any of our A team and anyone else that's interested.